Things I've been told but never believed (Part 1): "You are strong"

Where Did the Idea of 'Strong' Come From?

Throughout our lives, we hear phrases like, "You're so strong!" or "Just be strong!" These words are often intended to uplift and encourage, but they can also create burdensome expectations.

For a long time, I believed that being strong meant staying silent in the face of pain, that needing support was a sign of weakness. This is a common narrative, but it's one that we need to challenge.

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Revisiting Strength: It's Not What You Think

Strength isn’t merely the absence of vulnerability; it's the willingness to feel deeply. It's the quiet courage to grieve what you never had or to admit that things aren’t okay.

Society often tells us that we should tough it out, that displaying emotions makes us weak. However, real strength comes when we allow ourselves to truly feel and show those feelings, not when we bottle them up and wear a mask of invincibility.

A Call for Authenticity

If you've ever wished for a softer past or grappled with the expectation of always being strong, let this be a reminder: you are not broken. Read this again! You’re simply human.

Everyone has a story that involves struggle, and acknowledging that struggle is a part of healing. The journey to redefining what it means to be strong starts with you reclaiming your narrative. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world alone; seek out support, speak your truth, and allow yourself to heal in whatever way you need.

So, the next time someone tells you, "You’re so strong," consider reflecting on what strength really means. Choose to embrace a version of strength that includes compassion, vulnerability, and, most importantly, authenticity. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, to feel the full weight of your emotions, and to seek out a future that’s brighter and filled with possibilities.

With love and warm hugs to you,
Mel